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Are false memories a problem? Yes, because any memory, or thought in a memory, that is not based in truth becomes a potential problem. Truth sets us free. Lies bind us.

What creates false memories? Lies create false memories. Any lie that becomes accepted in the mind becomes a stronghold because it is against the knowledge of God.

Should we be afraid of false memories. NO! On the contrary, what we need to do is aggressively attack the lies by inviting Jesus into the thought and asking for Him to reveal His truth. The enemy wants to get us to accept lies and have those lies work in us forever. Jesus wants to set us free by having us accept His truth.

After we invite Jesus into our lives as our Lord and Saviour, we need to continually invite Him into every thought so that we can be transformed by His truth.

"We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."

2 Corinthians 10:4-6

So, we don't need to be afraid of false memories. In fact it is the opposite. We neeed to actively address the lies and false messages in memories so that we can be free. That is God's plan for us.

In the Message in Ephesians 1, it says, "He had us in mind to be made whole and holy by his love." God wants us to be whole, joy filled and free. How does he transform our minds? With His loving truth. Jesus is the solution for false memories.

Change your words; change your world!

Nothing truer could be said. The words of lies lead to death. The words of truth lead to life.

John 8:32, "The truth will set you free." If you have accepted a lie, such as, "I am unworthy," replace it with the truth and observe the difference. Lies feel terrible, truth feels uplifting. In my work as a Christian counsellor, I am constantly helping people make that shift from painful, wounding words to a new story based on truth. What truth you ask? I mean the truth of Jesus Christ, either from scripture, or the truth that the Holy Spirit reveals to you in your mind when you ask. Psalm 91:15, "He will call upon me and I will answer him." Don't live any longer with the words that pull you down and hurt your spirit and soul. Change your world by changing the words that you accept about yourself. Listen to these words:

• Since you are precious and honoured in my sight and because I love you - Isaiah 43:4


• I praise you because I am fearfully and awesomely made - Psalm 139:14


• For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight - Ephesians 1:4


• For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins. - Colossians 1:13

By a gift of grace, God has made us righteous.

2 Corinthians 5:21. "God made him [Jesus] who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God."

Not 50% righteous; not 75% righteous; not 90% righteous, but 100% righteous. This gift comes from God. Philippians 3:9, "the righteousness that comes from God and is by faith." We need to understand that Jesus did it all. He took all our sin. That is what salvation means. We are pure - 100% pure. Can we accept this truth? This is not a fact to become proud about because we didn't deserve it or earn it. It is a gift. Nevertheless, it is still a truth that we need to receive and accept by faith. In God's eyes we are holy and blameless. It is the spiritual blessing of Ephesians 1:4. We now have the right to enter the Holiest of Holies in heaven because of what Jesus did for us. Thank you Lord for loving us so much that you would give us this gift of eternal life.

This is what Nicholas Kohler says in his article in Maclean's magazine on Feb 21st. He says that Elisabeth Kubler-Ross interviewed a handful of dying patients in Chicago in the mid-60"s and then wrote a book called "On Death and Dying", which the world has accepted as the definitive work on grief. The only problem is that the analysis was backed by no solid research. Based on her work, the grief industry has established conventions for grief based on a theory that grief is a "journey" that we all must "work" through, otherwise we have not grieved properly. It promotes grief as a long and debilitating process with five steps; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance. Ruth Davis Konigsberg, in her new book "The Truth About Grief: The Myth of Its Five Stages and the New Science of Loss" argues that adherence to the model does more harm than good and has actually lengthened the expected duration of grief and made us more judgmental of those who stray from the designated path. She says the grief culture has stigmatized the more common response of resilience and strength branding it as "cold" and even "pathalogical." In fact it is possible that a lot of the grief work just makes it fester by retelling it and Kohler says "All that vocalizing may be just the trouble." Some studies show grief can be aggravated by chit-chat.

In the article called "Grief and Mourning" on my website:lovehealstv.com you will see that I have made a similar discovery. With my clients I have learned that there is a way of dealing with grief that takes much less time and seems much more effective than Kubler-Ross's five steps. In this approach, a believer invites Jesus into the pain and literally asks Jesus to take the pain away. When the pain is gone, the person can then remember the one who has passed with joy and is able to celebrate the person's life as a good memory. I believe Jesus wants us to live life abundantly and not in anger and depression. No doubt some people still have issues that may still need to be worked through after a person dies. But in my opinion, living in pain isn't one of them. I had one client who had been grieving the death of a close relative for 51 years. After one hour of Christ-Centered counselling, where he invited Jesus into the memory and asked Jesus to take the pain away, he was free of pain. The client was able to think of and remember the relative in a positive and happy way. I think Jesus wants to help us in our grieving and that his love, truth and help is just what we need when we grieve. Try it for yourself and see what Jesus will do for you. Then you can assess if Kubler-Ross's five steps is the only way do deal with grief.

In Isaiah 61, it says, "He [Father God}has sent me [Jesus] to bind up the brokenhearted, to comfort all who mourn, to bestow the oil of gladness instead of mourning and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair."

Two weeks ago a client called saying that she was having trouble feeling safe and she wanted to come for counselling. She said that she had been pushing her husband away saying, "Back off! Don't touch me. Get away from me." and sexual intimacy was impossible.

She was open to Christ-Centered Inner Healing and was willing to go to a memory that might hold these words and feelings. Sure enough, there was a memory when she was 4 or 5 when her father had taken her to see a doctor. After the father left the doctor's room, the doctor performed a procedure that was the equivalent of molestation. In the memory, the client was telling the doctor to "Back off. Don't touch me. Get away from me."

She invited Jesus into the memory and he came and rescued her. At the end of the session the doctor was not in the picture and she felt safe with Jesus. When she left the session, she said she now felt safe . Here is the testimony that she emailed to me one week later.

"Alf, I wanted to give you an update. The transformation has been amazing. The intimacy returned right away. When my husband touches me the voice is not there and my skin does not crawl. I can be intimate without inhibitions. It is truly the work of the Lord."

This counselling did not take years of trying to overcome the consequences of sexual abuse. The total process took less than one hour. Our living God, Jesus Christ, is amazing. He loves to heal and he can help you too with your issues. You can read about the process in my book "Free To Be Me' on lovehealstv.com in the Individual section.